Posts Tagged ‘change your life’

Living Inside My Body

October 1st, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | 4 Comments

As it turns out everything I need to know is already inside of me.  But what I didn’t know is that it is not sitting inside my mind or my mental capacity to ‘figure things out”.  It is inside my whole being, my own internal sense of wisdom and true knowing.  The only way for the knowledge that I had so assiduously acquired to be fulfilling is to have it connect with the heart and through the body.  It is from within the body we begin to recognize our own truths and our own sense of knowing.  READ MORE

Two Weddings and a Ticket to LOVE

May 12th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

Love, love, love. . . .where does it come from?  What is it?  How do we know when we are getting enough and when we want more, where do we go?
I can’t help but ask myself these questions about love as I find myself riding the wave of two wedding ceremonies this week.  Naturally, we all seek love in some form or another.  It appears to be integral to the human condition.  But it’s worth it to stop and ask what is it exactly that we are seeking in the search for love. . .is it approval, acknowledgment, belonging, companionship, family, or something else altogether?  What about your search, what do you desire in your search for love?
We often seek love when we are experiencing a sense of separateness.  We feel separate either from ourselves, or from others, or from some sort of connection to nature, God, the Universe.  In this perception of ‘I am alone’ we go charging out to try to fill this sense of separation with something outside of ourselves. This is the cycle of feeling like we can never be enough.
I admit to not being able to answer these big questions on love in this little article, but in honor of the quest for deeper understanding, I can present some questions for you to consider in your search for love:
  • What do you want love to fill up or complete for you?  Can you name the underlying need that springs forth in your desire for love?
  • Do you find it easier to give love or receive love? How can you begin to receive with as big a heart as you give? Or, give with as big a heart as you receive?
  • What are you willing to change in order to open to more love in your life?  How can you begin right now to be more loving to yourself, to others, to strangers, to your life as it is?
I can’t answer these questions for you, but I can put them out there for you to illuminate how you may want this to express through your own life.  Love is everywhere and opening to the presence of love in all things opens you to the gift of your life, your presence, your joy!
Hmmmm, go out and love ‘em!  As for me, I am heading to the next wedding ceremony, and this one is taking place on the Las Vegas strip!

Intuition often comes through quietly. How do you tune in?

May 4th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

Last week I went to Los Angeles for a week of business, pleasure, family, and friends.  I jumped on the opportunity to attend a marketing workshop specifically designed for solo-entrepreneurs like myself.  I circulated and learned a lot at the workshop and also had a ball spending time with my family and friends.  It turns out I know quite a few great people in LA and even got invited to a small Hollywood gathering!  Who me?  You just never know where I might end up!

My sister also did some recruiting to try and get me to move out to LA and I was open to exploring the idea.  I spent some time ‘feeling’ it and tuning into the question, “Would L.A. suit me?”  It certainly requires more research but it does have me wondering:  how do we tune in to our intuition to guide us in everyday choices as well as in making those big leaps like moving across the country?

Earlier this year I spent an afternoon on a tour of art galleries in Chelsea with a dear friend. We were having a blast hopping from one gallery to the next to see the latest in photography, painting, sculpture and more.

About halfway through the tour we came to one of the largest and most famous galleries in all of Chelsea (our guide was sure to point this out).  In this large open space only two large sculptures were on display.  One of them was constructed with a series of metal security doors welded together to form a large intertwining rectangle of rusted metal.

It was a rather distressing piece and left me with a profound sense of despair and the feeling of being locked in or trapped by all these rusted metal doors.

Up until this point I had been having fun looking at the art but this piece made me feel gloomy and heavy.  Clearly the artist intended an effect, which was certainly not uplifting, and even leaving me a bit uneasy, but I was willing to keep checking things out.

The next piece by the same artist was a big coach-style bus.  The guide gave us some background about the piece. It turned out you could also walk through it to see how the had converted the bus, using the same rusted metal security doors as the first piece.

So I went through the bus and as I did, something really terrible struck me.  I suddenly felt claustrophobic and anxious. Something felt very wrong and the feeling took over my whole body.  Every hair on the back of my neck stood up and I had to get out!  Eeek!  I managed to get off the bus without pushing anyone in front of me but it certainly wasn’t fast enough.  Ahhhhhhhh, I immediately went outside to get some air.

How often to do you tune into yourself or your environment before moving forward?  When you sense danger or even just something that feels a little off, do you listen or do you talk yourself out of it?  Do you adjust your actions?  Do you slow down?  How willing are you to trust your own intuition, those internal nudges that subtly ask for attention or, when it’s really trying to get your attention – the hair standing on the back of your neck?

If I had slowed down for even a minute to tune into the feeling I got from that bus, I would have known that I didn’t want to go inside for the tour.  The bus was painted black on the outside and there was something very dark on the inside that was not anything I needed to learn more about.  For me, I just needed to walk away.

Now this was only a bus in an art gallery, but it’s a good example of intuition at work.  It could have just as easily been a potential employer, or a man asking me out on a date, or an invitation to a party.  So what can we do to better focus our ability to tune in to our soul’s messages?

Here are a few tips that I’ve found can bring me back to my own knowing.
1. Slow down. Walk slower. Talk slower.  Open up your awareness to notice the environment around you.
2. Breathe. Deeply. Breathe.
3. Feel your feet connect with the earth (even if you are on a bustling NYC street corner!).  Connect downward through your whole body and remember that we’re all connected to the earth, no matter how much concrete or metal may be between us and the soil.
4. Tune into all your senses. Use all your senses – sights, sounds, smells, sensing, even taste.  Allow your whole body to ‘speak’ to you.
5.  Intuition often speaks through the ‘imagination’ so notice what are you ‘imagining.’  Cultivate ways to allow it in without judging or demanding instant answers.

Intuition often comes through quietly.  It doesn’t demand or get pushy (that’s the mind) and it never gives you a list of ‘to do’s.’ So often we need to cultivate some quiet space to really hear it.

Some people meditate, some go running or rock climbing, some knit or engage in a hobby that allows the creative process to unfold.  Explore and cultivate activities that nourish your spirit and in turn, you will naturally and easefully strengthen your intuition.

After letting all that negativity clear out I joined the final leg of our art exploration. The end of the gallery tour came to a close with some hand-made pieces created from tossed beer labels. It was a great reminder of how to make beauty from what most would consider garbage!  This was spectacular and inspiring!

Are you ready to follow the nudge?

April 27th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

Do you ever wonder who you really are and what you are here for? If you have, you are not alone. I have asked myself these questions over and over! And in asking myself these questions, I’ve gone searching, asking, researching.

This insisting, nudging and tapping on my shoulder would not go away until it was satisfied and as a result it’s lead me around the world exploring – books, dvds, trainings and to the sources – the teachers, the gurus, the masters, the monks, and even the mountain (Kanchenjunga!).

At the time I may not have really been able to articulate what I was searching for and why – I just had to follow it. It may be that I went to the mountain so you don’t have to! I can show you how to tap into your own passions living your life right now (unless you are dreaming of going to the mountain yourself!).


What’s your purpose? What are your passions?
Why is it important to even consider these questions?

Because, as you know, no one can answer these questions for you, but you. And, life is too precious to not know (or at least be experimenting) with what’s true for you.

Sometimes when we consider following our desires, it feels as if it will up-end everything in our lives and that feels too overwhelming. We freeze right there. We find a million excuses, reasons, or justifications to keep from taking any steps. It’s safer to stay where we are than to risk shaking up the status quo.

I also know how hard it can be to wade through all the expectations, teachings, learning’s, socializing, habits and beliefs of what you should do or what ought to be.

I doubted myself for a long time and tried many other things – careers, paths, and teachings along the way to get it ‘right’. But no other ‘right’ will satisfy you for long.

I have searched the world to understand my own calling. For nine years, I’ve journeyed to the far corners of the earth seeking out masters, mystics, and healers to teach me how each of us can open to who we are and what we are here for. I’ve been fortunate to study and train in techniques both eastern and western, ancient and modern. I’ve explored over thirty-four modalities in everything from Space Clearing, to Buddhist meditation, to Kundalini yoga, to Soul Awareness healing even Green Medicine.

Only you can discover what’s true for you by tuning into all of you and opening to who you truly are.

That’s it. Yes, being you. Uniquely. Perfectly imperfect. You.

What’s tingling in the palm of your hand?

April 2nd, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | 1 Comment

I have to confess the last few weeks have been tough for me. I hit the wall. I had a health crisis. I lost my mojo. I’ve been totally stressed out. I’ve been utterly exhausted. And naturally, in the midst of all this my vision of what I truly want, wavered. It wavered so far away I couldn’t recall what I was really striving for or why. Hmmmmmm, have you felt this way?

Read on to hear more of my own personal story and learn about the opportunity to live soulfully on a month-to-month basis. (You decide when to start and stop!)

Burned out! . . .
A few weeks ago my own personal wake up call arrived in my hand. Literally, in my left hand. It came in the form of this painful nerve tingling in my palm. It was so odd I had to take notice. I mean I don’t really have these types of things happen to me. I don’t really have lots of pains and aches and complaining in my body. So this was really strange.

Luckily, I already had an acupuncture appointment scheduled so I just decided to show him what was happening. Fast forward a few more acupuncture appointments and some intense and painful massage and the diagnosis, stress. Months of built-up stress in my neck and upper back.

After we started to unravel the knots and tension, I was hit with the exhaustion. Oh my! Now I have months of my insomnia catching up to me. I feel like everything was in slow motion and I can’t make any decisions. I was in the middle of my own standstill.

The timing couldn’t have been better since I’d already planned to spend a week in Las Vegas. Ha, did I catch you there? Yup, I said Las Vegas but no, not an ordinary trip to Las Vegas as I had planned to meet up with my family for a wellness week including out spring cleanse. Restorative. Yes, that’s exactly what I’ve needed to do the last two weeks.

With this has come some re-evaluation from inside out. And with it comes changes in how I will be creating my practice.

The exciting news is that I’ve created a new way of working with me that allows you to determine your own start and stop.
Have you wanted to try out my one-to-one mentoring without a minimum three-month commitment?
Have you decided you want support but you aren’t sure for how long and want to keep it open-ended?
Do you just want to flexibility work together throughout the year depending on what’s coming through and when you need it?

If you felt, “Yes!” then consider my new Soulful Living Month-to-Month Program!

It includes:
Three 75-minute one-to-one sessions per month.
There is one monthly fee. No deposit. No long-term commitment.
You decide when to start and when to end.

Have you had a wake-up call in your life? How have you managed it?

I confess in the past I’ve just kept pushing myself. Yup, I’m guilty of it, too. We all are. There are endless to do lists, information to be processed, requests to respond to and that doesn’t include all your own desires and dreams that want to be manifested. It’s not like the world slows down just because you are exhausted.

But this time, I responded differently. I started listening much deeper. I literally laid my body down. And all my parts of me said, this has got to be more fun, easier, and feel more supportive. Above all, it’s time to start listening to me.

The funny thing about this is sometimes it feels too scary to really listen to yourself. Have you ever thought to yourself, I just do not want to go in there!

I had a friend call me the other day in a crisis. All of her defense systems were hard at work to keep her believing she was ‘safe.’ The last thing she could hear was her own wisdom. It was buried in all the noise trying to keep her away from the crisis itself.

And that’s the illusion. That if you don’t go in there, you will be safe but those are the exact places that want your attention – are literally demanding your attention.

Those are the exact places that will help you hear the whole story. And when you can start listening, it starts to shift. Big shift. Naturally. Sigh of relief. Now you can really hear what’s happening. Ahhhhhhhhhhh.

Ready to listen to all your parts more deeply? I can facilitate that process so it feels supported, natural and frees you from the old story that is holding you back.

Would you like post your own story or comment to this newsletter?
I’d love to hear from you so please share your own wake-up calls with me! Post a comment!

How are you nourishing your body and soul?

March 16th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

If you met me ten years ago, you would see a completely different person than who I am today.  Now that’s probably true for everyone to some extent.  But for me the difference would be pretty significant.

For starters I dyed my hair a dark brown and wore it long and straight.  I weighed more and carried more weight in my face.  I exercised but not extensively enough to be considered athletic (I was just keeping up).

More importantly, I was more easily irritated. A lot more cranky. And a lot more moody.  And prone to feeling really depressed.  I couldn’t regularly digest my food.  I was always trying to figure out the last thing I ate that was upsetting my stomach to try to avoid eating it again but it never seemed to end. I couldn’t always pinpoint exactly what it was.

So how did I evolve to what I look like today and how I feel today?  Read on to learn more about how food and nutrition played a key role in my journey and join me this Wednesday for a webinar on this very topic.

My Own Journey through Food . . .

When I started exploring all the different ways the body, mind, and spirit heal, I tried a lot of different things.  I was genuinely ready, willing, and able to try just about anything.  I knew that there was a direct link to how I felt, my mood swings, and my digestion, but nothing a medical doctor would diagnose.

So I started my own research.  I worked with a nutritionist and started eliminating certain foods. I followed the blood type rules and tried eating like Blood type O (I found out later I am Blood type A).  I did a ten day food detoxification on my own following some guidelines in a book. I stopped drinking alcohol simply because it made me feel so bad.

I gave up meat, chicken, diary, wheat, soda, sugar and more for three years.  I did a juice cleanse for six weeks.  I drank wheatgrass.  I grew my own organic vegetables.  I tried going raw.  I did a gall bladder flush.  I did colonics.  Through it there were times I felt really good and times I felt really bad.  But I believed I was changing my cellular make-up.  I was changing my physical self from the inside out.

And I was determined to change it because I kept noticing that no matter how much I ‘tried’ I would default to negative places – depression, moodiness, despair – and I wanted to shift that out of my cells entirely.  Back then I was mostly doing this on my own, with a friend or two, reading books to piece it together.  People thought I was completely crazy.  The word ‘detox’ didn’t really exist as a word people used on a regular basis unless you were a drug addict.

Now there is a lot more support for making these types of food and nutritional changes in your life.  Including amazing practitioners who can help you create a personalized plan and there are more organic food choices, more awareness of where food comes from, local versus commercial farming and awareness of the affects food creates for health, wellness, and vitality. Not to mention the many more vegan, vegetarian and amazing raw food restaurants (I was just treated to dinner at one of the best in the country last week!).

Food is a direct link to how we nourish ourselves. And how we nourish ourselves is a direct link to how we connect to ourselves as spiritual beings.  Nowadays, I’ve found more peace when it comes to my food choices and no longer have to maintain strict dietary restrictions and can naturally digest my food, eating just about anything.  It took me years of searching which I can share with you as you embark on your own journey.  How do you want to nourish your body?

I would love to support you to make similar changes inside and out in your life.  Please join me and New York based Health coach, Jena La Flamme this week in a webinar titled, How to Unblock Your Flow in Weight Loss and in Life Join us on Wednesday, March 17th at 8pm (EST)/5pm(PST).


More details on the webinar for Wednesday . . . .

You’ve likely noticed, there are areas of your life where everything works…
…and there are areas where you get really discouraged, easily frustrated,
and can’t for the life of you make what you want happen.

For many powerful women, feeling unhappy about their weight and body image falls into that category.

While for others that missing thing is a satisfying and rewarding career.

And for others still, it’s nourishing, fulfilling, and passionate relationships.

In either case, there’s a voice whispering in your ear, with never ending persistence, no matter how many times it’s been ignored, that is part of the solution…if only you would listen.

Join me, Elizabeth Joy Mueller, former corporate management consultant turned soul healer, and Jena La Flamme, weight loss expert and founder of the Jena Wellness Center in NYC, as featured in Glamour, Pilates Style and on Discovery Health Channel, for a FREE 60 minute webinar to ignite your path to weight loss, wellbeing and getting exactly what you want.

Are you ready to stop drowning out the smartest part of you, and unlock your power?

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010, at 8pm EST, 5pm PST.  To Register go to:
P.S. Even if you are unable to make the webinar live, send me your name and email and we’ll send you an mp3 recording as soon as it is available. That way you can listen to this great information when it suits your schedule.

No Lion, I Love YOU! Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 14th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

Today is Valentine’s day.  A holiday of sorts set up around romantic love.  This day, maybe more than any other holiday throughout the year, can really bring up a lot of charge for people.  When I say charge, I mean, excitement, disappointment, romance, elation, dread, frustration, lovesickness, the glaring lack of romance and the list goes on. . . which camp do you fall into? There are the haters of Valentine’s day, the lovers of Valentine’s day, or the neutral (what holiday?).

Screeeeeeaaaccchhhhh!  Sttoppp. Freeze!  Right where you are!

I’d like to propose a re-framing of this day altogether.

Remember when you were in the 2nd grade, you spent a whole afternoon turning a old shoe box into your valentine receiving box using construction paper, scissors and glue.  It was fun, pretty easy and the box could look anyway you wanted it to look.  It got you all ready to receive lots of Valentine’s from everybody.

Then the next day everyone in class showed up with valentines cards and you ended up with a whole pink shoe box of Valentine’s reminding you of many of the following. . .

Be mine.   I’m yours.

I’m cuckoo for your love.  Cuckoo!  Cuckoo!

No lion, I love you.  Roooaaarrr!

You appeel to me, Banana face.

Lots of silliness.  Lots of candy (which at the time you thought was fabulous). Lots of pink and red.  Lots of fun (you were skipping any real school subjects for cupcakes).

So given this is where you started with Valentine’s day at age seven, let’s just take you right back there.

Let’s make Valentine’s the day you just remind all those people in your life that you care about them and you love ‘em.  It can include your partner or the doorman, your friends and your family, your great aunt Lillian and so on.  Give ‘em one of those silly sappy cards just for the fun of it! Spread your love!

Make Valentine’s day a day to create random acts of kindness.  Better yet, make them anonymous.  Pass on fun, unexpected delights to a total stranger.  Pay ahead for the next five people to get a free coffee or cupcake.  Send an anonymous note to someone who is sad or lonely.  Send flowers to that cranky person at your office who never gives anyone credit for hard work.

When you do these fun little mischievous acts, you’ll notice it actually makes you feel good.

Today, one thing for sure is that you are receiving a BIG BIG Valentine’s greeting from me.  Because I love this day and I love you!  Trust me, I do, in a divine bright love sort of way!!

I’m truly CUCKOO for you!  Happy Valentine’s Day!

Much much love,


How do I make my Soul Callings come true in 2010?

January 24th, 2010 by Elizabeth Joy Mueller | No Comments

Happy New Year! The transition into 2010 has been exciting, expanding and exhilarating. Usually the month of January is a tough time for me and I come into a new year kicking and screaming but this transition into, not just a new year, but, also a new decade, has felt really different. Many exciting new things are happening in my practice. My programs have reached a liftoff and my clients are heeding their soul callings!

My own 2010 soul callings are inviting me to step out through speaking engagements, launching my Live Authentically Tribe and more!

The question is, how do I make my soul callings come true?

Read on to discover a short, easy yet profoundly revolutionary trick to bringing in your dreams, wishes, and New Year’s resolutions.


It’s January and you’ve made a list of resolutions, goals, desires, or, said to yourself something has to change. Maybe it is in your career, your relationship, or your health. You know what it is because it is clearly tapping you on the shoulder and when you ignore it, you can feel it. It actually takes effort to ignore it, to push it away. (If I had to guess, I might say you have a soul calling. . . .hmmmmm.)

So here’s a way through it without ‘figuring it out’ because that never works and it just makes everything feel even more difficult.

1. Set a timer for 3-5 minutes. (most phones have this option so you can do it anywhere that is relatively quiet)

2. Choose one area you desire to bring in change. For example, I desire to launch my Live Authentically Tribe with a live event. Or, I desire to bring in my own legendary relationship.

3. Be very clear about the desire or change without blending it. For example, I desire an amazing relationship, to change my career, and to receive a million dollars. This won’t work so choose only one area of focus.

4. Start the timer and for the next 3 to 5 minutes feel what it will be like when your soul calling, dream, or desire is manifested. Go to how it will FEEL to be you and have this already happening in your waking experience.

5. Allow the whole experience of how you would be, what you would feel like, imagine what you are wearing and how it feels to interact with others around you. Imagine feeling really supported and allowing what you want to come in easily and effortlessly. Have some fun, lighten it up, feel that smile on your face having what you always dreamed of! Imagine how much fun it will be for you and others when you are manifesting your soul calling.

6. Don’t go into the action steps, don’t try to figure out how to make it happen – just go straight into the fun part – the having it, the living it, the loving it!

7. Do this once a day. Stick to 3-5 minutes only. Step out of the way and let the magic begin!

When the fun stuff starts rolling in, please send me your story or post a comment so I can share it!